When was the last time you truly appreciated life?
Like you called or messaged your parents, a friend, a colleague, or your partner to say, ‘Thank You’ and silently thanked God in gratitude for that person, this life, or an episode of it.
Well, if your answer is not recently then you really need to reflect and start seeing the good things in life.
Not just for this piece of writing but many at times it happens to me that when I join my hands in prayer, my mind goes numb. I have nothing to ask for, but I do the talking with God. That is my connect with him. If I am nervous, I ask him to stay around and if it is an auspicious occasion and I am leading the puja, I just request him to bear with me.
I am disciplined and I love talking to God or faith as you call it. It is like I leave my things with him to resort and even resolve. I have developed a sort of co-dependence.
The reason why it is important to see the good things in life is because that helps you UN-COMPLICATE. For instance, again in context of God and Human connection, if I am indulging into prayers, I cannot indulge into rituals. I am okay if you say the problem lies in me, I accept the same.
Lately, I have come to an understanding that there is a severe disconnect in my mind that travels between being religious and being spiritual. I learnt to be at peace with this disconnect when I decided to focus on the good and act with positivity without fearing the mistakes I might be making in following rituals.
It’s not resistance to the rituals but acceptance that my mind works in a certain way. Trust me, I have really tried to subscribe but this just never worked for me. Even to an extent, that I myself started doubting my belief and faith system.
But the good here is it did not shatter my faith in God or the power of prayers. And when you can’t find him around or you found him to be missing in action, understand that God believes that you are capable and can manage the situation well.
So now tell me,
How often do you see the good in life?
My mantra is always to focus on the positive and if that is difficult – find the positive and go after that.
Now you must be thinking that it is always easier said than done.
Let me tell you, Yes, it is. But it is all about changing the narrative, the one that you tell yourself. And that’s exactly where the magic begins.
Consider this…
When you tell someone, you are sick, you are more like a disease and less like a person.
Ever tried becoming someone more than just a disease?
If I know a person isn’t willing, interested or would want to help, I will restrain myself from speaking the truth. For I like them to see the person in me more than the disease in me. The reason is simple, I wish them to have a happy, healthy perspective about me.
I don’t want to be a victim, seek empathy, or scare them off. For as humans, we can only love a person we cannot save them. So, it is always your choice – whether you are seeking love or wish to burden the person with the very notion of saving you.
Are you wondering,
How can we see the good in things, very often?
I wondered about that too. In fact, for a very long time.
If you are trying to see the good things, live better. Additionally, try to develop these:
- a strong will
- a mindset of abundance
- practice positive talk
- maintain a routine
- invest in yourself
A strong will is required to get up after each fall. It is what you need to ignore the unwanted and unrequested small talk, you know your truth and that should be enough.
A mindset of abundance will help you progress despite the odds, because you will find yourself looking at the bigger purpose, every time life tries to smuggle you back to mediocrity.
Practicing positive talk is good for your health. It is also the best way to keep the negative talkers at bay. My thumb rule, never say things that you don’t want to hear or happen. And it is not about indulging into sweet talk, it is all about sending the positive message to your own mind.
For example,
- She is good. (Positive talk)
- She could be better instead of She is bad, and I don’t like her. (Positive talk)
- She is great just not my type. (Still, it is, Positive talk)
Not even once did the brain got a message about anything bad or judgmental. Next time it will abide. That is the reason, you need to choose your words carefully.
Maintaining a routine is good. Well, it never makes you a machine, but it is always helpful in setting the rhythm of anything at hand. Be it a day thru daily routine, and yearlong experiment with weekly routine. (Confession: I still stumble on this part, but I always try and maintain one or the other routine :))
Invest in yourself and do it without guilt. Invest money by shopping for the thing you really want to have, by joining the course you always wished to, my leaving an important email or forever pending home chore – just to do your stretching, go for a walk or meet a friend.
Do it because, it helps you live and because it feels good and feels right.
So, if anyone who c
omes across as being a disease make sure you do not receive the same as one. You need to keep the mindset of abundance for the person involved and for you. It is not about being ignorant or rude, it is about your attitude of carrying the fight.